Not long after Sunday’s mass killings, signs started emerging that the tragedy may have started with an act of domestic violence. Those who knew the killer said he was jealous and had a complicated relationship with his girlfriend.

On Friday, RCMP confirmed that a woman the killer had been in a relationship with was either the first or among the first victims. She survived and managed to flee into the woods where she stayed for the night.

On Friday, the Transition House Association of Nova Scotia (THANS), which represents 10 transition houses and domestic violence organizations across the province, shared a statement about the mass killings, saying it was “saddened but in no way shocked” about the killings, calling the murders “an extreme and actualized version of the male rage and aggression targeting those who are supposed to be the closest to them.”

We must not dilute this problem by speaking of a single act of rage but rather recognize that male violence is part of a bigger social problem of entitlement and toxic masculinity. We need to recognize the underlying attitudes and beliefs that tolerate and normalize smaller acts of violence against women and perpetuate an environment that leads to deadly outcomes.

We must not dismiss the root causes of this horrific problem if we wish to prevent future tragedies like this. The male violence inflicted upon women and their children every day is a pandemic in its own right. The violence is not exclusive to the woman: it can include threats against children, the woman’s extended family, friends, neighbours, pets and often last for years, even after the relationship has ended. Violence against women takes place in quiet rural communities as well as large cities. It does not respect age, wealth or occupation.

Also Friday, Feminists Fighting Femicide sent out a letter signed by Pam Rubin, Lucille Harper, Tara Reddick, Linda MacDonald, Jeanne Sarson, Bernadette MacDonald, and Johannah May Black, demanding clarity from the RCMP on the femicide elements of this crime and demanding an inquiry with a feminist analysis.

While not all of the victims in this mass shooting were women, all of the victims were victims of misogynist violence. We want to make it clear that misogyny — the hatred of women — affects all of us. This mass shooting, and many mass killings witnessed throughout Canada’s history are connected to white men’s privilege, showing us that this hatred brings severe harm to many. This hatred of women is ravaging our communities, our families, and our bodies. We want it to end. The first and most important step to fighting back against this hatred is to recognize it as femicide. To always speak out against femicide wherever it lurks in our society, in all our rural and larger communities. We must further recognize that femicide disproportionately impacts Indigenous and Black women, and other marginalized and vulnerable groups. We must have the courage to name misogyny and femicide and speak out against it.

For women’s organizations across the country, that this murder rampage started with domestic violence comes as no surprise. In Canada, every six days a woman is killed by her intimate partner. Other mass murders like the one that started in Portapique have started with domestic violence and/or misogyny. There was the killing of 14 women at Ecole Polytechnique in Montreal in 1989. In 2014 in Edmonton, a shooter killed eight people, starting with his wife and children. The shooter had a criminal record dating back to 1987, including arrests for domestic assault. In 2019, a man used a van to kill 10 people on streets in Toronto. Most of the victims were women.

Andrea Gunraj is the vice-president, public engagement with the Canadian Women’s Foundation. Photo: Canadian Women’s Foundation

Andrea Gunraj, vice-president, public engagement with the Canadian Women’s Foundation, says domestic violence still is seen as a private issue. But she says we all have to start paying attention to these crimes and the motives behind them, including sexist attitudes toward women. “Men who are privately dangerous to women are publicly dangerous to everyone,” Gunraj says. (The foundation has a fact sheet on domestic violence here.)

Gunraj says we all can do our part to help women leave situations of domestic violence. She says the expectation is often that women in violent situations will reach out for help but it’s not always possible or safe for them to do so. Women in abusive situations are emotionally manipulated into not reaching out.

Everyone needs the right tools to help women in violent homes. Gunraj says most people simply don’t know how to help. “When we see a woman being abused, we’re scared to intervene,” she says. “The flags were there. There were signs and hints, but there was no safe way to intervene. It’s so important for us to understand there’s no substitute for a safe person, a proactive person.”

Gunraj says that means people should actively and safely reach out to women they suspect who are being abused and believe them when they say they are experiencing violence from an intimate partner. People should make themselves aware, find local resources for women, not just 911.

There are numerous programs, including THANS and those programs designed to help women who are now at home more often because of social isolation measures. The Canadian Women’s Foundation has a program called Signal for Help, a simple one-handed sign women can use in a video chat, which many are doing under social isolations measures, to ask someone for help.

There’s also Neighbours, Friends & Family, an Ontario-based program that trains people how to recognize the signs of abuse and be a support for women who want to leave abusive men.

One of the problems is that while there are many projects dedicated to addressing gender-based violence and helping women leave abusive partners, they are often underfunded. Gunraj says the foundation is calling for a national policy on gender-based violence that would start at the top levels of government with policies, practices, and funding, and filter down into municipalities and eventually into communities where the abuse begins. “There’s a role for everyone to play, so this is a huge solution,” Gunraj says.

Looking at domestic violence also means addressing the issue of male violence and male entitlement and that plays out in more areas than in the home or in mass shootings. Male violence and male entitlement are at the root of inequality between men and women and the attitudes that men are better than women. We see it through sexual violence, sexual harassment in the workplace, the gender-pay gap and the idea that women should take jobs that don’t pay well, overall disrespect for women, and much more. “It goes on and on and through and through our society,” Gunraj says.

Dealing with male violence and male entitlement means giving men healthy outlets to express anger and emotions. “If we do that, the space to be violent to someone and the capacity for silence disappears,” Gunraj says.

Domestic violence is significant problem in Nova Scotia. According to a fact sheet from the Nova Scotia Domestic Violence Resource Centre, 37 women were murdered by their intimate partner between 1999 and 2018. As of December 2019, women continue to be the predominant victims of domestic violence in Nova Scotia at 78% compared to 22% of the victims being male. In 2018, the rate of police-reported incidents of domestic violence against females was more than three times higher than the rate of police-reported instances of domestic violence against males. That same year, the rate of police-reported domestic violence against females in the province increased by 7.8% compared to 2016. That rate is higher than the 4.4% rate increase for Canada.

Nova Scotia has its own domestic violence prevention plan with the Standing Together to Prevent Domestic Violence with the Advisory Council of the Status of Women (Disclosure: I am the coordinator of the Not Without Us project, one of the projects funded under this plan).

Women of colour, Indigenous women, immigrant women, disabled women, and women in the LGBTQ community are at higher risk for gender-based violence. Domestic abuse is compounded by racism, homophobia, classism, ageism, and religious persecution. Indigenous women are killed at a rate six times higher than non-Indigenous women. Disabled women are abused at rates twice that of able-bodied women.

Nancy Ross

Nancy Ross is an assistant professor in the School of Social Work, Dalhousie University, and Cary Ryan is a former police officer in British Columbia who now works in the domestic violence community in Halifax, including with the Metro Interagency Committee on Family Violence and the Domestic Violence Court Working Group. They’re working on a project studying carceral feminism and marginalized women and the pro-arrest, pro-prosecution policies of domestic violence in Canada. Both say in the early days after the killing, they suspected there was a domestic violence connection. “That was the red flag,” Ross says when she first heard in the media that the killer’s ex-wife and partner were killed.

“It was a hunch having been rooted in this work so much lately. I am always looking for that,” Ryan adds.

Cary Ryan

Ross and Ryan say the problem of gender-based violence is often not discussed as much as it should be because it exists in silence, so people may not realize how big an issue it is. “It’s an under-reported, under-acknowledged, under-resourced, silenced issue,” Ross says. “It’s a community issue, it’s a social issue, it’s a family issue.”

Ross’ and Ryan’s work focuses on women who are racially, socially and economically marginalized, who are more likely to experience the negative effects of policies like pro-arrest and pro-prosecution.

“The criminal justice system re-victimizes victims,” Ryan says. “There’s a sense victims are left to defend themselves.”

There is good news. Ryan says the domestic violence courts in Nova Scotia are having a positive impact on women and children in the province.

In her work, Ross has profiled the Be the Change, Make a Change project, which examined gender-based violence in Lunenburg; that project was a three-year study by the Second Story Women’s Centre and funded by Status of Women. That project not only looked at ways to ways to create a coordinated response to violence against women and girls, but it also recognized that the cultural and social roots that sustain violence need to be addressed. Everyone was included — from survivors of domestic violence, healthcare providers, local and provincial governments, schools, police and justice officials, and boys and men themselves.

Ross says we all need to look at the social conditions and the culture in which people are raised and how we are building peaceful relationships in our society.

“This calls for a reflection on what kind of culture we’ve created and what do we do to support boys and men in ways that are non-violent,” Ross says. “Most of the messaging we get is violent.”

“We have an opportunity in this crisis to reexamine what makes Nova Scotia great. It’s going to be the cause of a lot of reflection and it will be an opportunity to promote reflection.”

Resources:
Transition House Association of Nova Scotia (THANS)
Bryony House
Alice Housing
Adsum for Women and Children
Women’s Shelters Canada
Nova Scotia Domestic Violence Resource Centre
Canadian Women’s Foundation
Native Women’s Association of Canada
The Canadian Council for Refugees
Egale
Stop Abuse for Everyone
DisAbled Women’s Network of Canada
Neighbours, Friends, and Family
The White Ribbon Campaign


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Suzanne Rent

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    1. Its too bad the comment system doesn’t support notifications. I’d like to know why it are surprised at that figure? Too high? Too low?

  1. I’m glad this article raises the issue of how we bring up our boys. When I became the parent of a girl and two boys I learned something about a fundamental way modern Western culture fails our boys and men. Once upon a time a boy earned his way into being considered a man. The ways aren’t relevant any more. There aren’t too many aurochs or lions out there for the teenaged boy to hunt and kill. But there are other ways, other rituals, which could still work in a modern world, but have been forgotten. A vision quest, for example. When my boys were teens I thought, what does a young man have to do to become a man? What is his rite of passage? Keys to the family car? Seemed pretty paltry to me, and probably psychologically very inadequate to the young man as well.
    Changing the culture of misogyny is more than punishing men for bad behaviour, more than trying to have gender neutral toys, more than equal pay for equal work. We have to consider the deep psychological and physical needs of the young human male and find a new rituals that will suffice to make him secure in his maleness, without having to prove himself strong by harming others. I have no answers but maybe even being able to acknowledge this need in our boys is halfway there.
    A young human male is potentially a very dangerous animal and I think tribal societies understood this and found meaningful ways to control anger and rage and propensity for violence and channel potentially dangerous behaviour into positive contributions to the wellbeing of the family and the tribe. The young need to feel valued.

  2. And I want to thank Feminists Fighting Femicide for their excellent open letter.
    And thanks to Suzanne Rent for exploring and exposing the reality of domestic violence and its role in the mass murders. 60% of the victims were female.

  3. Thank you for this article- I hope it is part of the culture change we need! As a signator on the Feminists FIghting Femicide statement I am grateful that word is getting out that there ARE things we can do to make our communities safer from femicidal violence that affects us all. Its wonderful that you have listed some links to resources at the end- if you could add a few more key ones I think it would add to the helpfulness of that list. The women’s centres and Avalon Sexual Assault Centre could be included. The website for Women’s Centre’s CONNECT has contact information for the nine women’s centres across Nova Scotia serving primarily rural women: http://www.womenconnect.ca/contact-womens-centres.html
    Thank you!